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Shakti perspectives: Sabby Jey

'AM I just a Bob and vagene?🤦🏾‍♂️ People ask many women on Instagram why they sexualise themselves in pics? WE DONT..YOU DO. We are not in charge of how you are'. While people acknowledge they need help for the obvious ways of self harm and I definitely got help for those aspects, I feel there is generally less self awareness as to why we excessively drink, smoke, or over eat. It was a coping mechanism for me and I always regretted it afterwards but couldn’t help myself and I am sure many of you can relate to this.

I think for me it really hit me when my ways were making me feel sick and unable to perform at work or enjoy my days because of the toll all of that had on my body. In the last few years, I have spent time finding better ways to cope with dealing with my feelings without indulging in harmful behaviour of any sort. What I have found helps is taking time for myself, and acknowledging I am feeling this way. I choose to talk to my support circle (close friends and family), I go for counselling, I take a few pills to help keep me in control prescribed by a doctor and most importantly -  I choose to love and care for myself. When my mind is in a fragile state, I choose to go easier on my work, easier on my goals, be present and mindful, eat good healthy food, engage in something physical and perhaps pamper myself with a bit of social interaction, beauty treatments or simply KFC and a South Indian Movie.

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